You have already done one of the hardest things a person can do.

You noticed what was broken in your family, your relationships, your workplace, maybe even your own body, and you decided not to keep calling it normal.

You broke patterns that may have been in motion for generations.

And now, you’re asking a question you’ve never considered before.

What’s next?

You’re trying to heal what you were handed, so the people who come after you don’t have to.

And, you do it really well. But, you’re really freaking tired.

Being the first in your family to heal is not for the weak. It’s time to stop doing it alone.

Sometimes, we work so hard to protect ourselves, we inadvertently make it impossible to be anything more than safe.

Michael Singer refers to this as living a “thorn shaped life”. This week we’re talking about the most common barriers we construct to keep us safe…that actually keep us stuck.

Have you done too many hard things?
When your whole personality is about doing hard things, you spend most of your time in survival mode. Survival mode is great if you’re actually trying to survive something. But, for living and enjoying your life…not so much.

Too many hard things under your belt without enough rest, play, fun, and joy and your nervous system starts to go on the defensive. It builds spectacular, high achieving, results oriented, armor and narrows your life down to something defensible.

The very skills that saved us can become the prison that prevents us from enjoying our actual lives.

This week, we’re talking about the architecture of the cycle breaker – what creates them, what saves them, and what returns them to themselves.

Monarchs are the strongest, bravest, people in the world – but they almost never feel that way.

This week, Sara has written a love letter just for you – the one no one even thinks to check one.

Hello, hyper-independence.

This trait is among the most common I see in achievers and survivors. And it causes way more problems than it solves.

This week, we’re talking about how to replace this way of functioning with something that sustainably works.

high achievers start to notice familiar symptoms getting louder than before.

Weight gain

Stiff joints

Generic inflammation

Autoimmune disorders

3 AM wake ups

Chest pains, racing hearts

Minds that can never slow down

When it started happening to me, I was at the top of my professional game – the peak of my particular mountain, having accomplished nearly everything I had set out to do.

You survived the trauma. Did the therapy. Read the books. Burned the sage. So, why does life still feel like this?

This week, Sara walks us deeper into what happens when cycle breakers and survivors live in a constant state of bracing – and what to do about it.

There’s a moment many of us reach after we’ve “made it.” The hardest parts of our life are behind us. The resume is impressive. The goals are achieved. The family is well. And yet— something still feels…off.

Everything around us says we should be thriving. But we’re not.

We fought so hard to get to a place of healing but it feels like we’re just surviving our beautiful, miraculous, and accomplished lives. Not that long ago, that was me.